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Helping parents develop their children’s EQs

Online since 10.04.2018 • Filed under Feature • From Seventeen - April to June 2018 page(s) 18
Helping parents develop their children’s EQs

Research within the field of psychology suggests that fewer children can cope with the complex range of emotions that confront them these days. Globally, experts report a decline in emotional intelligence (EQ) among children, which is detrimental to their capacity to work harder, resolve conflict, explore new activities, and achieve more in life.

Children’s inability to express their feelings results in a general lack of communication, poor discipline, and frustration that manifests low selfesteem within both children and parents. Cape Town-based child therapist and social worker, Shontell Fiet, applied her extensive knowledge and experience of child play therapy to develop a support tool for parents and therapists. Introducing iFeel, Shontell developed a unique card game that facilitates an environment in which children are encouraged to identify, express and regulate their feelings more effectively.

‘We live in a fast-paced, technology-driven, hyper-connected society, yet our children struggle to express their thoughts and feelings. Globally, there is a growing concern that children are not able to effectively understand and manage their feelings – let alone identify and sympathise with the feelings of others,’ says Shontelle.

The game includes a deck of 14 animal-themed cards that promotes a fun and non-threatening context in which children – from the age of three – can safely explore and express their feelings.


Through the power of projection, the game teaches children to identify and express their emotions. The facial expressions and visual clues on the cards are intended to encourage the child to project their own interpretations, which means that there are no right or wrong answers. This enables parents, teachers and therapists to gain an in-depth understanding of their experiences – both positive and negative – to address problem areas, improve their social skills, memory, cognitive skills and vocabulary. ‘Our ability to develop and maintain emotional intelligence is paramount to the early childhood development stages. An emotionally intelligent individual is more likely to achieve confidence and success than a person who simply has a high IQ, supporting the argument that we need to teach our children to identify, acknowledge and regulate their feelings from a young age,’ she adds. Shontelle developed this game to provide an easy-to-use, affordable tool for parents, teachers and anyone actively involved with childhood development. Commenting on the ultimate benefits to parents, she adds: ‘I believe that when our children are confident, and their feelings are heard in a safe, stimulating environment, they will learn to communicate them effectively.’


For more information about the game visit iFeel’s Facebook page, www.facebook.com/ iFeelGAMES and YouTube video www.youtube.com/watch?v=QdavPQS6bak&sns=fb  For purchases or further information, email info@ifeelgames.co.za. Each game cost R250.

Seventeen - April to June 2018

Seventeen - April to June 2018

This article was featured on page 18 of Babys and Beyond Seventeen - April to June 2018 .

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